西洋人的礼节

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西洋人的礼节中，最基本的原则之一，就是“女士优先”(ladies first) 的习惯。女士们处处受到男士的呵护和尊重。在街上行走时，男士要走在靠近街心的一边。一位女士和两位男士一起走时，女士通常走在男士的中间。走到门边，男士一定要抢先开门，然后恭立一旁，让女士先过。入座时，男士要为女士搬动座椅，让她坐定后，自己方才入座。女士要穿脱大衣、外套时，男士更要趋前帮忙。坐汽车、火车时，男士要先下车，然后伸出手来让女伴搭扶着下车。被人介绍认识时，要由女方先伸手，男士才可轻握一下立刻松开。众人在座位上时，如有女客刚到，所有男士都要起立招呼，别的女士则不必起立。
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<br>餐桌上的礼貌，也是西洋礼节中的一项重点，有些地方和我们大不相同。吃正餐时，应从座椅的左边入座。侍者上菜也是由你的左边端上桌来，但是饮料和酒类则要从右边端上。喝汤时不能把碗端上口边来喝，而应用汤匙将汤送入口中。食物要先在盘中用刀切成小块，再用叉子送入口中。需要盐、胡椒、奶油、糖等时，要请靠近它们的人把它们传递过来，可以说：”John, would you pass the salt (pepper, butter, sugar) to me, please ?”千万不要自己探起身、伸长手去拿，那是不礼貌的。
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<br>口中的食物尚未嚼完吞下时，千万不要说话。咀嚼食物更要注意不能出声，双肘也不要放在桌上。餐桌上谈话应轻声细语，最好谈些轻松愉快的话题。有烟瘾的人要善加克制，等到吃完甜点之后才能抽烟，同时应礼貌地征求邻座的人同意，例如问说：“Do you mind my smoking？”或“May I smoke？”等大家回答：“Not at all.”或“Go ahead, please.”之后才抽。
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<br>下面两则模拟对话，是在餐馆吃饭或在酒吧喝酒时的常用语，供各位读者参考，请特别注意一些礼貌的说法：
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<br>．在餐馆吃饭
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<br>Traveler(A): I want a table for two, please.
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<br>Head Waiter: Yes, sir. Right this way, please... There is a nice view of the city from this table.
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<br>T(A): Splendid! Now, what shall we have for dinner this evening？ What do you have today？
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<br>Waiter: Here's the menu... May I take your order？
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<br>T(A): I'd like a fruit cup, lobster with string beans, and French fried potatoes.
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<br>Traveler(B): I'll have a bowl of tomato soup and a nice steak with carrots and a baked potato.
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<br>W: How would you like your steak？
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<br>T(B): Well-done, please.
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<br>T(A): How about a green salad for each of us？
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<br>T(B): That's fine.
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<br>W: What would you like to drink？
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<br>T(A): Let's have some wine with the meal.
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<br>T(B): Yes, let's.
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<br>W: What would you like for dessert？
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<br>T(B): I'd like vanilla ice cream.
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<br>T(A): I'll have melon.
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<br>W: Certainly.
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<br>(While eating)
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<br>T(B): This steak tastes very good.
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<br>T(A): That's good. My lobster tastes good, too.
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<br>T(B): Will you please pass me the salt?
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<br>T(A): All right. Do you want the pepper, too?
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<br>T(B): No, thank you.
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<br>(After dinner)
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<br>T(A): That was a nice dinner.
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<br>T(B): It certainly was.
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<br>T(A): Waiter, please let me have the check.
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<br>W: Here you are, sir.
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<br>结语：\r<br>通常在餐馆有 head waiter（领班）担任餐桌之分配。到达餐馆后不要迳自走向空桌位，要先告诉 head waiter 要多少人的餐桌而等候其引导。餐后告诉侍者送来帐单，在自己的桌位付款。通常只有在自助餐厅和咖啡店才会自己拿着帐单到出纳 (cashier) 处付帐。在美国餐厅吃饭一定要另给侍者小费，通常约为消费额的百分之二十至二十五，可谓高得惊人，若要省钱，只好到自助餐厅 (cafeteria) 去吃，那儿小费全免。若在 drugstore 便餐，小费约为百分之十，也节省多了。
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<br>．在酒吧小酌
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<br>Traveler(A): Where shall we go tonight？
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<br>Traveler(B): Let's go out and have a drink.
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<br>T(A): That's a good idea.
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<br>T(B): I know where there's a nice bar just a few minutes from here. The atmosphere is interesting, and they serve good drinks.
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<br>T(A): Okay. Let's go there. But there's one condition. You're my guest tonight.
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<br>T(B): Oh, no. Let's split the bill.
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<br>T(A): No, no. I insist.
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<br>T(B): Well, if you insist....
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<br>T(A): I'd like a mug of German beer. What can I get for you？
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<br>(B): Scotch on the rocks.
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<br>T(A): (To the bartender) Give us one mug of German dark beer and one Scotch on the rocks.
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<br>Bartender: Just a moment, sir.... Here you are. One dollar and fifty-five cents, please.
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<br>T(A): Here you are.
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<br>B: Thank you, sir.
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<br>T(A): Would you like another drink？
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<br>T(B): Well, I'd like to try a Manhattan.
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<br>T(A): I'll have the same. Waiter... Uh, excuse me, would you please give us two Manhattans.
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<br>B: All right, sir. One eighty, please.
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<br>T(A): Can you change this ten-dollar bill？
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<br>B: Certainly... Let's see. One eighty, two, three, four, five, and ten. Thank you, sir.
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<br>(After drinking)
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<br>T(A): How about another one？
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<br>T(B): No, thank you. I've had enough.
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<br>T(A): This is just right for me, too. Shall we go, then？
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<br>T(B): Yes, Thank you very much for your treat tonight.
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<br>T(A): Don't mention it. It was really nice to have your company.
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<br>结语：\r<br>在欧美的酒吧除非特地吩咐，否则waiter每送一次饮料即须付一次帐。又：外国酒品牌极多，点酒时必须指定种类，外行者可问朋友：”What would you recommend？”最后，欧美人士对于吃饭、喝酒时由谁付帐的方式通常都很干脆。只要事先讲好，请客的一方心甘情愿，被请的一方也心安理得，不会有象我们这里几个人聚完餐后争先付帐的热闹场面。\r<br>