if you intend using humor in your talk to make people smile, you must know how to identify shared experiences and problems. your humor must be relevant to the audience and should help to show them that you are one of them or that you understand their situation and are in sympathy with their point of view. depending on whom you are addressing, the problems will be different. if you are talking to a group of managers, you may refer to the disorganized methods of their secretaries; alternatively if you are addressing secretaries, you may want to comment on their disorganized bosses.
1 intend v.
have (a particular purpose or plan)in mind ;
meanex: it’s not what i intended (it to be).
2 identify v.
recognize sb./sth. (as being the specified person or thing).
consider sth. to be identical with sth. ; equate two things.
3 relevant a.
connected with what is being discussed, what is happening, what is being done.
ex: colour and sex are hardly relevant when appointing somebody to a job.
4 sympathy n.
(capacity for) sharing the feeling of others; feeling of pity and sorrow (for sb.).
ex: feel great sympathy for sb.
feeling or expression of approval.
ex: my sympathies are with the workers in this dispute.
5 refer v.
mention or speak of sb./sth.; allude to sb./sth.
ex: don’t refer to this matter again, please.
turn to sth./sb. for information
ex: i referred to my watch for the exact time.